No point bothering to explain how tiring it’s like to be a SAHM.

How true!

Have a read at what she shares:
The Stay-at-Home Mom Conspiracy Theory

She totally nailed it! People who aren’t SAHMs have NO IDEA. Most of the time, in their minds they have a much better painted picture, and tend to be unaware of the many little nitty gritty details/tasks a SAHM has to do.

They would think stuffs like, “So nice! You can sleep until so late! Rest and play (watch TV etc) with your baby/kid at home.”. YAH… (You seriously have no idea… *lol)

I do know what it’s like to be at work, though not everyONE’s work life/job is the same, but then, I do have experienced the busy deadlines, long meetings, political emails, political wars happening around in the office, OTs, waking up early, no time for lunch, stress etc. And yes, it is tiring. But I can only say, it is very much different from a SAHM’s.

And in fact, I guess my hubby STILL does not really ‘grasp’ how tired I can get. And yes, he will always say the ‘sleep’ point as his main reason somewhat to ‘prove’ that he should be more tired (in that sense – being much more sleep deprived than me).

Yes, I do sleep more than him… With my daughter’s current sleeping habits, she wakes up late (around 10am to 12pm range usually) BUT sleeps extremely late too (around 11.30pm to 2am). But yeah, YOU know… 🙂

We used to argue much over this ‘tired’ issue but now I’m trying to take it more easy since it is evident that men and women work differently… And he seems to be more ‘understanding’ as there are times he will express his ’empathy’ (*HAHA) towards me.

And he is the sole breadwinner (I guess I’m not experiencing that kind of ‘responsibility’ and stress being the only one trying to support the family), while I get to really bond more with our precious angel. So I am thankful. I really am. Thank you, hubby (even though you aren’t reading this :D). Thank you taking up the FULL responsibility of bringing the beacon home and letting me enjoy my motherhood fully.

Time for some photos!

Recent selfie photo of us, and a super happy one (Daddy & Mommy couldn’t stop laughing seeing the pretty much unbothered/unaffected/clueless sweetie pie in the screen)

Selfie taken just last Sunday, where we brought her to the new Punggol End for a short evening walk before heading done to 婆婆’s house

Signing out.


Labour Day! Woohoo!!!

Yes! Public holiday!

Time check: 8:13am

Somehow I woke up very early today (6+am) and after nursing her (when needed) I didn’t go back to sleep. As usual, I was (am) surfing around for ‘her’ stuffs (looking at organic foods/ drinks this round) and then just simply “catching up” in the “internet world”. Simply just, ‘relaxing’ I guess, or perhaps you can say, “lazing around” but all right by her side, watching my lil’ angel. ❤

Anyway, Happy Labour Day!!! It's great because the Daddy isn't working and we can bring her out to play (and Mommy is really looking forward to "go out" too since I really "stay home" majority of the time being a full time SAHM). And I get to 'rest' a little with the rest around.

So I hope YOU have a great day too, no matter what you decide (or have) to be doing. And it'll be very soon (just one more day, Friday) and then the weekend is here!


And here's a happy pic of V from yesterday in celebration of today. *hehe

My “happy pill”, who’s growing up a tad too fast


Cherishing EVERY Moment NOW

The exceptionally fascinating first year has passed. She is now a toddler, instead of a baby (even though till date I still see and term her as one using ‘baby’ in all the hashtags :P). And I am already missing the ‘younger’ Venice like way before now.

I have to say I am totally loving the close bond that we share, and that we’re inseparable (Mommy = “milk milk”). I adore her ‘stickiness’ to me (actually the Mommy is very sticky to her too :P) and whenever she does her koala bear style ‘thing’, my heart just melts completely.

• No ME time – My life is all about her/attending to her needs now. She has become my number 1 priority (she will always come before me). Don’t really have much time for myself except using the iPhone/MacBook while she naps or sleeps in the night. Other than that, there is usually not much I can do…

• No dating with the Daddy – Only went out a few times by ourselves when she was much younger and then she started rejecting the bottle. Our last movie was like, “Wreck It, Ralph”. *duh. And now whenever we go out, definitely comes as a package, as a family. 🙂

• Skipping friends gatherings – I’ve opted ‘out’ to numerous outings/meet-ups due to strict diet and venue restrictions (breastfeeding) as I didn’t want to impose those restrictions and cause any inconvenience to the outings too.

• Gone days without bathing – Yes, I am guilty (but the consolation is that I think many other SAHMs share the same experience as me). But those WERE the days… Recently I’ve “leveled up” and managed to be able to bathe together (decent bath) with her so, “Hooray!” for me. 🙂

• No time for personal/basic grooming – Daily skincare regime is not JUST an easy 5-10 minutes for me. If I can complete the whole ‘routine’, I’ll normally be feeling accomplished and somewhat pleased.

• NO luxury grooming at all – No facials, spas, manicures/pedicures (since we’re inseparable, and also the fact that I am more kiasi and extra careful (I abide by the “better safe than sorry” rule) now that I have Venice and I really do not want to be in touch with any chemicals/unknown drugs). Not to mention, JUST a haircut… I’m in need of one, badly, now, and I’d wanted to go since before CNY? Shows how a simple haircut is such a BIG+DIFFICULT ‘PROJECT’.

• Not being able to dress up ‘pretty’ – I miss wearing pretty dresses/skirts and heels… Accessories especially necklaces and embellishments on my top (clothing) are a strict no-no since she tends to always ‘bang’ her head onto my chest area. I’m breastfeeding so my choice of clothes is pretty limited/straightforward – easy to pull up tops. Skirts are kind of inconvenient since I’m always carrying her and I do not want any unnecessary ‘exposure’. And heels I worry about balance and stress on my feet since I normally carry her for long. So many times I actually envy other ladies who get to dress up oh-so-prettily. But I’ll have my chance soon. 🙂

• Messy and unkempt hair – That’s usually how my hair is on a normal daily basis (especially more previously – now my hair is so much an improvement as I’ll try to tidy up whenever I can). My mum would always say with a giggle, “Why your hair so messy? (So busy until your hair also so untidy.)”. Yeah, thanks Mum. *lol

• Hair loss – This is a SERIOUS problem. Ever since I don’t know when, my hair has been dropping and dropping, dropping and dropping (the hormonal changes + (still) breastfeeding I believe), until my ponytail mane has turned so thin (it was really very thick previously), and all my hair is always EVERYWHERE. Each time I comb my hair downwards, I see hair. On the comb, falling off to the ground… 😦 And not too long ago I noticed in some of the photos the top of my head actually has a lobang! *super ugly. And so even though I would love to dye my hair (to a color more ‘atrocious’ or should I say different maybe), I think I’d better put on hold else I may have NO hair after I do the dyeing.

(I’ve actually been editing on this post for countless times especially on the above (‘despite’ portion). I guess I’m just not in favor of/too comfortable writing down any negatives in relation to my precious girl (which may seemingly sound like ‘complaining’ (now that I have her in my life)). Or simply because it might create an impression that I don’t love her (which is TOTALLY untrue – in fact, I am crazily in love with her!). But I decided (again) to so perhaps in the future IF I really do forget about the details in this beginning phase of my motherhood journey now, I’d have this to refer to and recall the details back/reminisce. :))

…I love this phase of motherhood now (and of course the upcoming many other phases as well, and of course the WHOLE motherhood journey). So what (to the above ‘despite’s)? There will come a stage where she no longer needs me THIS much, where she is not totally dependent on me now, and things will change. I will have more time then. I will be able to go on dates with the Daddy. I will be able to meet up with my girlfriends (without much restrictions, just like how it used to be). I will be able to doll myself up, wear a pretty dress and walk in killer heels. I shall have a lovely haircut (and new color!) and look refreshingly ‘fresh’/edgy (*haha). I shall go for facials, spas and manicures to pamper my aging body (*haha)……….

So… I’m not in a hurry, really. I always tell myself (aware of the fact that), the time will come when she won’t be this close to me anymore (and it’s true), and I may long for it but this phase will just have passed and become part of a beautiful memory of my lifelong journey as a mother, and then I’ll be missing all these times. So I really treasure the times I have with her now. I treasure the close bond that we share right now. I feel blessed and honored that she is sticky to me (it probably means she really loves me so I guess I’m doing a pretty good job as a mother right now? *smug), because she wants me, she needs me. I am her mother. It is in my blood then I am (fully) responsible for her overall well-being and emotional needs. I love her dearly and I believe she loves me dearly too. And so I am happy despite, all that… I’m fine (cool) with it. I have to say (clarify), it’s really no big deal. 🙂

Yes, there may be times I may feel somewhat down (normally just for that moment/short while only, which I think it’s normal, isn’t it? – otherwise I’m probably abnormal), but otherwise I am living a very happy life now. I am blessed to be able to stay home (not work, and be a SAHM (a darn proud one too!), thanks to my hubby) and look after her 24/7 and be able to witness her every new milestone, be the first to know what happens exactly and when each day, be the one to update the others on what has happened, or if she just did something new/cute, be by her side ALL the time, cuddle right next to her and be able to take naps together with her, be her ‘main’ playmate and ‘teacher’ (I guess), seeing her smile brightly when she wakes up and sees me first thing in the morning… I love how she is always ‘finding’ me and coming over to ‘cling’ into me… How she whines for me and stops once I carry her. (I could really just go on and on here…) All these means ALOT to me. And I am thankful and appreciative of what I have and am going through now.

Motherhood. This first/early phase of motherhood. I’m a mother now, it’s no longer just me. Something AMAZING and BEAUTIFUL happened to me. (Actually) my life changed (completely) the very moment she started ‘residing’ inside me. She shared with me/’borrowed’ my body as her ‘home’ while she grew bigger and bigger all safe in my tummy… And then I actually gave birth to her. It was only then I feel like I’ve really become a COMPLETE woman (though I’m still like a child at times). I’m HER mother. I’m Venice‘s Mommy.

I love you, sweetie. You mean everything to me. My life has completely changed for the better now that I have you in it. You just make everything worth it. You complete me. You complete US.

US+our gift from Heavens. @Antoinette (taken recently).

L.O.V.E ❤


A Husband’s Amazing Response To ‘She’s A Stay-At-Home Mom? What Does She DO All Day?’

This is exactly what I was talking about with regards to the wrong impression that many people have with regards to SAHMs.

Have a read: http://www.sunnyskyz.com/blog/116/A-Husband-s-Amazing-Response-To-She-s-A-Stay-At-Home-Mom-What-Does-She-DO-All-Day-

I’d have to say, this is such a lovely (sweet) husband who knows exactly what is going on! *thumbs up




My name is Cozel and I am a first time mother of a lovely baby girl (she’s actually a toddler now but I still prefer terming her as ‘baby’) named Venice (aka Ruoxin). She is now 12 months old (1YO) coming 13 months old in 1 week’s time. (OMG~ How time really flies! We were still planning on how to celebrate her 1YO birthday some time back, and then the pre-celebrations came, and then her actual birthday, and now, her birthday’s like, over. *duh)

Ok, well, here’s a pic, of course of the mom (before I start bombing the site with Venice’s):
Rare selfie taken while lil’ one’s napping

A recent pic of my little rascal:
CNY Day 1

I am currently a SAHM (and I am really grateful to my hubby who ‘allowed’ it). And I want to clarify here to the many people (usually ladies who have yet to settle down – in my case, my friends who ‘envy’ me so fall under that category), whose impression is that SAHMs are living a great tai-tai like life, PLEASE, STOP SAYING THAT to a SAHM. Well, I honestly don’t expect them (my friends) to know how it’s like since they are not at this stage in life yet (I mean, becoming a mother), and I don’t blame them, but at least, I really hated being ‘disturbed’ to as “enjoying life” without having to work blah blah blah~. It’s really “You have NO idea” lor~ And “You will never know until you become one yourself”. (How true… Scary. *lol. And now my mum is like, “Now become mother already then you know hor?”) And how am I going to convince you?? And honestly WHY should I be even doing so?? (Seriously I can’t really be bothered and I don’t feel I’m required to do so.) It’s bad enough that I’m not being ‘appreciated’ as a SAHM, or given a gentle pat on the back and being praised, “Keep up the good job. I know how tiring it must be for you.”. It’s usually the case where it seems all ‘tough’ on the working fathers, having to support the ‘family’, where people tend to close one eye when they are all “tired from work”. Seems like they have that ‘right’. But what about the mothers at home who ‘work’ 24 hrs a day? Whatever happened to the understanding and appreciation they (we) should get? Anyway… (Just complaining a little… You know…) Well… Usually I will just respond by disagreeing and saying it’s not what they think (lor) and ‘explain’ that I am taking care of the baby instead of enjoying life like what they may be imagining in their heads. Well, if I really disliked it, then I guess all other SAHMs should more or less feel a ‘pinch’ too, especially if they have had a bad/tiring day, or if they are having a hard time.

Don’t get me wrong, I love being a SAHM. I feel blessed to be able to spend all day with her, to be able to witness every new milestone she achieves… I WANT to know exactly how many times she poo-ed, what is it like in appearance, how was her mood today, what new things she did today etc etc (the list goes on). I love waking up and seeing her first thing in the morning, and I want to be the first person she sees when she opens her eyes. I love seeing her lips curl up into a smile upon seeing me, and I want to be ALWAYS there for her. I love cuddling her to sleep, and I want to be right by her side, giving her the warmth and comfort that she needs. Honestly, I could just go on and on, so I think I had better stop… But I just feel there are people who tend to have the misconception that SAHMs are having an ‘easy’ life~ And I don’t like it. *haha (Maybe because I’m not exactly “enjoying life” in that sense? What I am referring to here is the manicures, shopping, high tea etc etc.) But I’m totally loving motherhood, totally obsessed with my erm, own flesh and blood. *lol. (Wow~ What a shiok feeling to be able to use the term “my own flesh and blood”~ :D) I am cherishing and enjoying every (well, not every lah, but…) moment with her, indulging in the great joys I’ve been awarded and am still being awarded… That’s how this blog site (Obsessed Mommy) came about and basically it’s all how I’m feeling right now… I am like, TOTALLY in LOVE with my sweetie pie! Hence, I decided to start up a form of entry logs (which I can also refer to later on in life – probably the time will come when I forget all these little moments/happenings/feelings, and I’ll be thankful I have this blog site) sharing my experience/thoughts throughout this motherhood journey… It has been a fascinating and ‘happening’ first year (pity I didn’t really document all those, but I kind of didn’t have the luxury and time to too especially during the beginning) and I look forward to the upcoming moments with her. This is, indeed a very FUN stage to be at (but tiring as well) now that everything she does seems like SUPER CUTE!! 🙂

This little girl of mine is on total breastfeeding (fully latch on, she doesn’t take from bottle) still and I’d have to say I totally LOVE breastfeeding my angel (despite the downs of it). It is the best & most private intimate moment that belongs to just you (well, me) and baby. And I must say that is one main factor on how we have bonded to become so close (she is really clingy to me but I’m actually loving it – probably I have the mentality that now’s the only time she will be ever so sticky and dependent on me still, and when she’s all grown up, she’ll somehow leave me~ *sob).

So mommies, if you can, then please do so (anyway breast milk is supposed to be most nutritious for your baby), but even if you can’t (for whatever reasons), don’t get too upset about it because I believe you have tried your best and ultimately whatever you’re doing, you just want the best for your baby. 🙂

I have been very blessed (and I am really thankful) to have sufficient milk supply and manage not to give up despite the tiredness, inconvenience it brought about, and in times of the pain (-.-“). In fact, I love breastfeeding her so much (the emotional bond awarded from it) that I have extended my initial plan of breastfeeding for 1 year (if possible), and am still hesitant to break off the latching. I actually intend to nurse her still (probably in the night or wherever possible at home perhaps) if I am going to give her formula milk. We’ll see how it goes (but I can’t help but feel many people around me e.g. my hubby, my MIL, and my grandma are kind of ‘waiting’ for me to stop the nursing just so life gets ‘easier’ for me – I’ll touch on why later on, or probably not. *haha).

We (myself, my hubby and Venice, and of course, more directly, my mum) have been through (I must say) a lot ever since she popped but I shan’t go into those details anymore (I probably will at a later stage if I touch on a subject in relation).

We stay in my cosy and messy room at my parents’ place (aka my house) which explains the mention of my mum in the paragraph above, and our new flat is currently still in construction (but we believe we should be able to move in by end this year). And yes, I am excited to be able to have our own cove and do all the “dressing up” of our house. Ahh… OUR house. It’s got a different feeling to it, you know~ *haha. It’ll sure be fun (but nerve wrecking) and I foresee we (hubby and me) will have many disagreements (*haha) simply because our tastes kind of differ… And it’ll probably be a sudden lifestyle change for Venice simply because there are so many people at home now, but it’ll just be the 3 of us in our new home. I do believe she will not be used to it, but I hope she’ll get adjusted to it real soon. If I were her (I imagine lah, ok), I would really be upset if I suddenly don’t get to see and interact with Mak Mak, Chor Chor and 外公 (and of course, there is Gu Gu) whom she has been seeing every single day, now… Since now she really likes 热闹. But I guess (as they say – am referring to my hubby and my mum) really is no choice, she’ll just have to get used to it, and she will (hopefully, smoothly). 🙂

Well, I think that’s pretty much for my intro (first) entry… It’s quite lengthy and overloaded with details but that’s just the way I am (more long-winded especially in typing). (TOO BAD~) (Believe I shall be updating new entries soon!~ ^_^ Can’t wait… As of now, I’m trying to customise the site nicely. :))