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No point bothering to explain how tiring it’s like to be a SAHM.

How true!

Have a read at what she shares:
The Stay-at-Home Mom Conspiracy Theory

She totally nailed it! People who aren’t SAHMs have NO IDEA. Most of the time, in their minds they have a much better painted picture, and tend to be unaware of the many little nitty gritty details/tasks a SAHM has to do.

They would think stuffs like, “So nice! You can sleep until so late! Rest and play (watch TV etc) with your baby/kid at home.”. YAH… (You seriously have no idea… *lol)

I do know what it’s like to be at work, though not everyONE’s work life/job is the same, but then, I do have experienced the busy deadlines, long meetings, political emails, political wars happening around in the office, OTs, waking up early, no time for lunch, stress etc. And yes, it is tiring. But I can only say, it is very much different from a SAHM’s.

And in fact, I guess my hubby STILL does not really ‘grasp’ how tired I can get. And yes, he will always say the ‘sleep’ point as his main reason somewhat to ‘prove’ that he should be more tired (in that sense – being much more sleep deprived than me).

Yes, I do sleep more than him… With my daughter’s current sleeping habits, she wakes up late (around 10am to 12pm range usually) BUT sleeps extremely late too (around 11.30pm to 2am). But yeah, YOU know… 🙂

We used to argue much over this ‘tired’ issue but now I’m trying to take it more easy since it is evident that men and women work differently… And he seems to be more ‘understanding’ as there are times he will express his ’empathy’ (*HAHA) towards me.

And he is the sole breadwinner (I guess I’m not experiencing that kind of ‘responsibility’ and stress being the only one trying to support the family), while I get to really bond more with our precious angel. So I am thankful. I really am. Thank you, hubby (even though you aren’t reading this :D). Thank you taking up the FULL responsibility of bringing the beacon home and letting me enjoy my motherhood fully.

Time for some photos!

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Recent selfie photo of us, and a super happy one (Daddy & Mommy couldn’t stop laughing seeing the pretty much unbothered/unaffected/clueless sweetie pie in the screen)

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Selfie taken just last Sunday, where we brought her to the new Punggol End for a short evening walk before heading done to 婆婆’s house

Signing out.

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Why Can’t Nursing Moms Just Cover?

A question that probably many has (though I’m not sure if in Singapore it applies since most Moms don’t really nurse in public due to our culture here)…

And yes, how I totally agree with this Mom!

http://www.mothering.com/articles/cant-just-nurse-cover-answer-photos/

Personally, I know for sure my lil’ rascal would definitely reject the nursing cover.

1) “What the…?” – She’ll probably be wondering what and why with this cover, and may think I’m playing peek-a-boo or something. Or if she truly wants a nap, I guess she wouldn’t like the idea of being ‘hidden’.

2) The Heat – I think babies/toddlers have a higher temperature than us adults (at least mine has), and my lil’ darling gets hot pretty easily (and always sweats at her head so covering her head with a cover in such a SUNNY SINGAPORE is definitely not the best idea! She’s already sweating even in air-con at times, not to mention, to cover her up!

3) Playful/Active Milktime – Since young (when she was still an infant), she has always been very playful, curious and active during milktime. She would (and still do) always unlatch and peek about, get distracted, play around etc. And now she even milks with all kinds of patterns/postures (talk about the fun having a toddler milking :D), climbing all over me even in the most “not feasible” places eg in the car. So covering her up… She will just pull away the nursing cover. No point having a cover that doesn’t cover, right? All along (I know) she isn’t a baby that would let me “cover her up” (though I know some babies/kids do quietly drink their milk despite a cover).

4) Bond-less Session? – The whole point of breastfeeding, I feel, is also the precious bond between the Mommy and baby. So when you cover up the baby… And you can’t see his/her precious little face, and vice versa, what’s the point? (Yes yes, maybe the nursing cover is only used in public, not all times… But still…) I always think that if I’m the baby, I’ll just be smelling Mama’s breast/smell but all around it’s just dark and I can’t see Mama… Which is kind of sad, I imagine…

Not that I would nurse in public (I don’t dare to do so because in Singapore, people are still not so liberal), not to mention, the chances of ‘exposure’ is super high for my case (with my girl *lol), but I’d nurse in the car now (which she definitely always requests for once we are in the car) (we got those blinds to attach to on the back windows :)), or otherwise find a nursing room to do so.

Now that she’s ‘bigger’ and she eats solids (hence her milktimes aren’t as frequent as when she was younger), the routine is I would usually be milking her “along the way” (in the car) to our destination/back home.

And I simply just love the milking sessions with her! (Glad I persisted milking her even after a year…)

Kudos to all Mommies (despite whether or not you’re breastfeeding or giving formula)! 🙂 We all just want the best for our child/children.

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From Wife to Mom

Here’s a link I chanced upon and I would like to share it:

Before You Were Mommy

She is totally spot on on paragraphs 8-14 (the ones in italic):

Ladies, there will come a day when your husband walks in the door and you do not turn around. You will be preoccupied with filling up sippy cups and wiping booties. You will shout over the running bath water, “Hey! Glad you’re home.” But it won’t mean what it used to mean. It won’t be full of eager anticipation to spend time together. It will be full of expectations to aid in the demands of the family. “Glad you’re home,” will more properly translate, “Thank God for two extra hands to help me.” And “Praise the Lord I might get five minutes alone.”

Ladies, there will come a day when you spend every last ounce of yourselves on your children. The demands of life and the babies will come before any other priority. What little of yourself you have left at the end of the day will be used to crawl into bed before someone is awake to need you again. The thought of doing anything else after the children are asleep will sound impossible and your handsome husband’s happy smile had better mean he is willing to get up with the baby and nothing more.

The husband that once completed your heart will be just one more person who needs you. The charming things that you fell for will go unnoticed. The daily grind will become expected.

Men, there will come a time when that beautiful bride sitting next to you hasn’t showered in days. She will be at her wit’s end wearing other people’s food and poop on her clothing. She will need to hear that she is beautiful, but she won’t listen to you. She will need to know that she is still lovable, but she won’t want you near her. When you arrive home after meeting the demands of work, you will be expected to meet the demands of your family. Your wife will hear none of your exhaustion, and you will see none of hers.

Men, you will call home to ask a quick question and anticipate a two-minute conversation. Half of it will be spent listening to your wife talk to your kids. As a matter of fact, you will make it no more than a few sentences in to any conversation ever before your wife spurts out direction to your children.“Don’t climb that!” or “Don’t sit on your sister!” You will become accustomed to these outbursts, but you will forget that there was ever a time when you had her full attention.

But Ladies, when Mommy becomes your name, remember this man. Remember that you are his wife. Remember how much you love and appreciate him in this moment. Remember his dedication to your family. Remember his love and devotion to you. And then, when the days are long and you need a break, fall into his arms.

Men, remember your bride. The care and love that she has given you will soon be spilled over to your children. Her love for you will not change. Give her the grace to be enough even when she doesn’t feel like it. Remember when your days are long, hers are too. Remember her. Fall in love with her again.

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I’ll just have to say what she said really relates to my (our) life now.

The part where we (mommies) just look forward to ‘help’ rather than “our husbands”…

The part where we devote ALL of ourselves all to our child/children… And that his happy smile should just mean he is willing to “take care” of the baby.

The showering part… And very importantly, this: Your wife will hear none of your exhaustion, and you will see none of hers.. Seems so, so true for my (our) case (now). We do tend to (and have) argued/debated before on who has the ‘right’ to be more tired and I do feel that he just doesn’t seem to understand how it’s like for me in a day as a SAHM.

And yes, the phone conversation part… It does seem like this whenever he calls back. I’ll be trying to concentrate on what he’s saying and also ‘entertaining’/attending to the little one by talking/’watching’ her… So yes, I always do talk/raise my voice at her whilst on the phone with my hubby. (Oops.) And usually, I “can’t wait” to end the call because it’s just quite distracting to be focusing (closely) on 2 things at a time.

Will try to ‘learn’ from this article… And remember “my man”. ❤

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A Husband’s Amazing Response To ‘She’s A Stay-At-Home Mom? What Does She DO All Day?’

This is exactly what I was talking about with regards to the wrong impression that many people have with regards to SAHMs.

Have a read: http://www.sunnyskyz.com/blog/116/A-Husband-s-Amazing-Response-To-She-s-A-Stay-At-Home-Mom-What-Does-She-DO-All-Day-

I’d have to say, this is such a lovely (sweet) husband who knows exactly what is going on! *thumbs up