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Amazing 1st Year It Has Been

And 2nd year in progress… *big smile

Sure, it (1st year) had its fair bit of downs too, but she, just makes everything worthwhile…

I must say, she has grown (and changed) a lot. From a tiny and dark looking 2.66kg, to a tall and fair 8.4kg now, she looks quite different already. Here I am not really referring to the super chubby cheeks or baby fats that have somehow ‘disappeared’ along the way, neither am I referring to how big and tall she has become, but rather more on her look (face).

There are babies who kind of “look the same” all the way (with that I mean, you can easily tell that that’s them), and we Chinese usually will say, “(他/她的样子)跑不掉的。” . It’s the same with adults, there will be people whom you go, “Oh! That’s him/her? Cannot recognize!”, vs those where we go, “That’s him/her alright! His/her look never changed at all!”, when we happen to look through their childhood/past photos.

So for Venice, I (we) feel she has changed quite a fair bit ever since she was born. From the not-so-pretty (I have to admit) and ‘boyish’ looking (face) newborn, to a fine sweet toddler she is now. 🙂 When she was younger, probably there will be people who mistake her as a boy… Now, maybe not so (though her outfit also helps ‘announce’ she is a girl), but I must say she doesn’t have that 100% pretty girl look. With that I mean, you know there are some baby girls who look totally “like a girl”, it’s like you can easily recognize through the face that she’s a girl because her look is 100% ‘girly’. But for Venice she has that bit of boyish look in her even though she is pretty (like our friend tells us that because she also looks like a boy, we’ll have a boy for our next child – not that I fancy him saying that (looking like a boy) about Venice though *lol).

She probably follows after me, looking different from last time (as a baby/child), and having that bit of ‘masculine’ look in the face. I must say she really looks like me (as a baby/toddler), it’s like I see ‘myself’ in her, and that feeling is simply, amazing. Though many people say she looks like her dad (in my opinion it’s mainly because THEY BOTH LOOK CHUBBY (*rolls eyes)), there is still the minority that says she looks like me (especially my mum who feels she is exactly like how I was when I was this young, and I couldn’t agree more). 🙂 So I figured she’ll probably look more like me (now) when she grows up? Am curious to see how she will look like when she grows bigger… *heh

But as of now, she has her peach-shaped face (her face isn’t as round as it used to be) which I love… Her teardrop-shaped eyes are bigger compared to last time (and I insist to the hubby that her eyes (especially towards the outward sides/ends) will probably continue to become bigger a little more along the way because her lashes there are actually curled upwards instead of resting on beneath her eyes but he thinks I’m being ridiculous – only TIME WILL TELL~ *lol), and I find this shape really unique (pretty uncommon). Her pretty lips/mouth which is kinda small and slightly curled (she has very nice lips and please don’t get mistaken, it’s not just solely me who feels this way), pretty unique and pretty too. Her well-defined eyebrows (just like her Mommy’s! :P)! Her eyelashes are really long too (like mine too? *haha – someone’s really trying to take credit here)! Her nose seems to be ‘smaller’ than last time (especially when she was a newborn) though it can go sharper (will try to pinch her nose regularly (wherever possible) like how my mum used to do for me)… Her hair, soft and fine, and quite a lot, certainly grown much longer (with her fringe all covering her eyes now vs the astroboy hairstyle she had then). And she’s quite fair too (like her mom, again *hohoho). Well, okay, enough of the ‘praising’ and here’s a collage pic I did just recently as a comparison (reminiscing).

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Left: Newborn, Right: 13+ mths old

Her eyes are closed in this picture, so you probably can’t really tell on the eyes part. Here are 2 pics (newborn + recent) with her eyes opened.

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Coming to a month old, taken during CNY last year

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12+ mths old, taken on v-day

(Well… These 2 pics probably aren’t the BEST 2 to make comparison with… But hey…)

No matter what, she’s a darling in my (our) eyes despite her ‘nasty’ temper. She’s really a very playful and cheery girl (oh, and cheeky too!), and recently (since she’s learning to walk) super active (cannot keep still one – like a worm)… Anyway, I don’t think I’m able to describe exactly/fully how important she is in my life.

I (We) love you very much, Venice. Please continue to stay healthy and bubbly, Mommy’s little rascal! ❤

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NO SIGN of DADDY for ONE WHOLE DAY

Today (because it’s past midnight), 11th February, is our 2nd wedding (6th got-together) anniversary and so Daddy had to work overtime yesterday to clear up all his work (just so he wouldn’t get ‘disturbed’ today, on our supposedly very special day, where he had taken leave to celebrate with me (and of course, the little one)).

And so he reached home later yesterday (but technically speaking should be today because it’s already past midnight) around 12+am and the little girl is already sleeping while I was nursing her.

Not that I blame my husband for coming home late (almost everyday – usually he’ll reach home around 10+/11+pm, and at times (but rare) earlier perhaps, say 8+/9+pm, and at times (NOT really once in a blue moon IMO) even later past midnight), but I just can’t help but feel upset about it. Every single day, we (me and of course I include Venice) just wait for him to reach home, but it’s always a long, long wait until I long have the “Late. AGAIN. As usual.” mentality (and I’m always not wrong) and I don’t harbor much (or any) hope in seeing him come back home early (even when he says so – be it “try to” or when he thinks he can during earlier part of the day). I don’t deny but I do get pissed at him (though deep down inside I really know it’s not his fault to begin with – I really do blame his company/boss though) especially at times when I’m more tired that day, or the times where she’s throwing a tantrum/being ‘naughty’ and I’m ‘deal’-ing with it my own self (again), or the times where we (my family member(s))/I play with Venice and she’s having a super great time, laughing/giggling like mad, or the ‘special’ moments (to me) where she does something new and we (the same ‘we’)/I get to witness it etc etc. I feel kind of sad that he, the Daddy, is missing out on all these great moments, or otherwise, selfishly letting me “take care” of Venice all by myself (I will feel that he’s not playing his role/part as her father). When he comes home, usually all tired and weary, he doesn’t have too much energy to ‘bond’ with Venice, and of course, it’s near her bedtime as well (but she sleeps pretty late for a baby – around 11+pm/12+am usually). Not that it’s much time (left) to be bonding with your little one anyway, I must say. He does play with her but there are the times where I clearly can tell/sense that he’s just ‘waiting’ for her to go and sleep (either his eyelids are like closing or he already dozed off to deep sleep) while she just plays by herself (most of the time I’ll have to be around there too otherwise if I leave her with the daddy alone, she’ll cry for me). Usually I can’t bear to see her being ‘neglected’ by the Daddy, and so I’ll go and join her in whatever she’s doing.

Every night, we (family member(s))/I will go, “Where’s Daddy?”, and she’ll always look around and/or then point to the door implying he’s not around, then we/I will ‘explain’, “Daddy not home. Daddy still at work.”. It’s kind of sad (I feel). (It’s not that we want to ‘remind’ her that Daddy is STILL not home to spend time with her, but it’s just something we like to ask her, asking her where is each and everyone of us, seeing how she answers by pointing at whoever is the target we asked her. And it’s only logical we also include her daddy.)

And LUCKY we (my hubby and I, and of course, Venice) are staying here at my parents’ place, otherwise I can’t imagine HOW TIRED AND WORN OUT I’ll be if we were really staying at our new place now. (I’ll be super displeased too since all the more she will need her Daddy’s company.) Here I have my mum and dad to help me out during the night (when they come home from work) so I get to “take a break”, and Venice won’t feel ‘lonely’ with all the extra doting and company around her. Otherwise I know I can’t rely on my hubby as of now… I’ll be REALLY MAD at him. *lol

I don’t know if THIS (Venice not seeing her daddy much during weekdays) is ‘unhealthy’ for her or not (and I’m glad it so happens she has all the extra ‘loving’ at home which kind of compensates for her “missing Daddy”) but I really do hope ‘this’ ends real soon. And I totally am NOT in favor of it. I want the Daddy to spend more time with her (on weekdays), and not be updated by me instead on what happened ‘today’.

Well, so much for complaining. 😛

Tomorrow (NO, today) is gonna be a great day. ^_^

And here’s a HAPPY pic of our sweetie to chaste away all the blues!~

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Our HAPPY Baby ❤ (Taken on Sunday, 9 Feb 2014)

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A Husband’s Amazing Response To ‘She’s A Stay-At-Home Mom? What Does She DO All Day?’

This is exactly what I was talking about with regards to the wrong impression that many people have with regards to SAHMs.

Have a read: http://www.sunnyskyz.com/blog/116/A-Husband-s-Amazing-Response-To-She-s-A-Stay-At-Home-Mom-What-Does-She-DO-All-Day-

I’d have to say, this is such a lovely (sweet) husband who knows exactly what is going on! *thumbs up

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Introduction

Hello!

My name is Cozel and I am a first time mother of a lovely baby girl (she’s actually a toddler now but I still prefer terming her as ‘baby’) named Venice (aka Ruoxin). She is now 12 months old (1YO) coming 13 months old in 1 week’s time. (OMG~ How time really flies! We were still planning on how to celebrate her 1YO birthday some time back, and then the pre-celebrations came, and then her actual birthday, and now, her birthday’s like, over. *duh)

Ok, well, here’s a pic, of course of the mom (before I start bombing the site with Venice’s):
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Rare selfie taken while lil’ one’s napping

A recent pic of my little rascal:
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CNY Day 1

I am currently a SAHM (and I am really grateful to my hubby who ‘allowed’ it). And I want to clarify here to the many people (usually ladies who have yet to settle down – in my case, my friends who ‘envy’ me so fall under that category), whose impression is that SAHMs are living a great tai-tai like life, PLEASE, STOP SAYING THAT to a SAHM. Well, I honestly don’t expect them (my friends) to know how it’s like since they are not at this stage in life yet (I mean, becoming a mother), and I don’t blame them, but at least, I really hated being ‘disturbed’ to as “enjoying life” without having to work blah blah blah~. It’s really “You have NO idea” lor~ And “You will never know until you become one yourself”. (How true… Scary. *lol. And now my mum is like, “Now become mother already then you know hor?”) And how am I going to convince you?? And honestly WHY should I be even doing so?? (Seriously I can’t really be bothered and I don’t feel I’m required to do so.) It’s bad enough that I’m not being ‘appreciated’ as a SAHM, or given a gentle pat on the back and being praised, “Keep up the good job. I know how tiring it must be for you.”. It’s usually the case where it seems all ‘tough’ on the working fathers, having to support the ‘family’, where people tend to close one eye when they are all “tired from work”. Seems like they have that ‘right’. But what about the mothers at home who ‘work’ 24 hrs a day? Whatever happened to the understanding and appreciation they (we) should get? Anyway… (Just complaining a little… You know…) Well… Usually I will just respond by disagreeing and saying it’s not what they think (lor) and ‘explain’ that I am taking care of the baby instead of enjoying life like what they may be imagining in their heads. Well, if I really disliked it, then I guess all other SAHMs should more or less feel a ‘pinch’ too, especially if they have had a bad/tiring day, or if they are having a hard time.

Don’t get me wrong, I love being a SAHM. I feel blessed to be able to spend all day with her, to be able to witness every new milestone she achieves… I WANT to know exactly how many times she poo-ed, what is it like in appearance, how was her mood today, what new things she did today etc etc (the list goes on). I love waking up and seeing her first thing in the morning, and I want to be the first person she sees when she opens her eyes. I love seeing her lips curl up into a smile upon seeing me, and I want to be ALWAYS there for her. I love cuddling her to sleep, and I want to be right by her side, giving her the warmth and comfort that she needs. Honestly, I could just go on and on, so I think I had better stop… But I just feel there are people who tend to have the misconception that SAHMs are having an ‘easy’ life~ And I don’t like it. *haha (Maybe because I’m not exactly “enjoying life” in that sense? What I am referring to here is the manicures, shopping, high tea etc etc.) But I’m totally loving motherhood, totally obsessed with my erm, own flesh and blood. *lol. (Wow~ What a shiok feeling to be able to use the term “my own flesh and blood”~ :D) I am cherishing and enjoying every (well, not every lah, but…) moment with her, indulging in the great joys I’ve been awarded and am still being awarded… That’s how this blog site (Obsessed Mommy) came about and basically it’s all how I’m feeling right now… I am like, TOTALLY in LOVE with my sweetie pie! Hence, I decided to start up a form of entry logs (which I can also refer to later on in life – probably the time will come when I forget all these little moments/happenings/feelings, and I’ll be thankful I have this blog site) sharing my experience/thoughts throughout this motherhood journey… It has been a fascinating and ‘happening’ first year (pity I didn’t really document all those, but I kind of didn’t have the luxury and time to too especially during the beginning) and I look forward to the upcoming moments with her. This is, indeed a very FUN stage to be at (but tiring as well) now that everything she does seems like SUPER CUTE!! 🙂

This little girl of mine is on total breastfeeding (fully latch on, she doesn’t take from bottle) still and I’d have to say I totally LOVE breastfeeding my angel (despite the downs of it). It is the best & most private intimate moment that belongs to just you (well, me) and baby. And I must say that is one main factor on how we have bonded to become so close (she is really clingy to me but I’m actually loving it – probably I have the mentality that now’s the only time she will be ever so sticky and dependent on me still, and when she’s all grown up, she’ll somehow leave me~ *sob).

So mommies, if you can, then please do so (anyway breast milk is supposed to be most nutritious for your baby), but even if you can’t (for whatever reasons), don’t get too upset about it because I believe you have tried your best and ultimately whatever you’re doing, you just want the best for your baby. 🙂

I have been very blessed (and I am really thankful) to have sufficient milk supply and manage not to give up despite the tiredness, inconvenience it brought about, and in times of the pain (-.-“). In fact, I love breastfeeding her so much (the emotional bond awarded from it) that I have extended my initial plan of breastfeeding for 1 year (if possible), and am still hesitant to break off the latching. I actually intend to nurse her still (probably in the night or wherever possible at home perhaps) if I am going to give her formula milk. We’ll see how it goes (but I can’t help but feel many people around me e.g. my hubby, my MIL, and my grandma are kind of ‘waiting’ for me to stop the nursing just so life gets ‘easier’ for me – I’ll touch on why later on, or probably not. *haha).

We (myself, my hubby and Venice, and of course, more directly, my mum) have been through (I must say) a lot ever since she popped but I shan’t go into those details anymore (I probably will at a later stage if I touch on a subject in relation).

We stay in my cosy and messy room at my parents’ place (aka my house) which explains the mention of my mum in the paragraph above, and our new flat is currently still in construction (but we believe we should be able to move in by end this year). And yes, I am excited to be able to have our own cove and do all the “dressing up” of our house. Ahh… OUR house. It’s got a different feeling to it, you know~ *haha. It’ll sure be fun (but nerve wrecking) and I foresee we (hubby and me) will have many disagreements (*haha) simply because our tastes kind of differ… And it’ll probably be a sudden lifestyle change for Venice simply because there are so many people at home now, but it’ll just be the 3 of us in our new home. I do believe she will not be used to it, but I hope she’ll get adjusted to it real soon. If I were her (I imagine lah, ok), I would really be upset if I suddenly don’t get to see and interact with Mak Mak, Chor Chor and 外公 (and of course, there is Gu Gu) whom she has been seeing every single day, now… Since now she really likes 热闹. But I guess (as they say – am referring to my hubby and my mum) really is no choice, she’ll just have to get used to it, and she will (hopefully, smoothly). 🙂

Well, I think that’s pretty much for my intro (first) entry… It’s quite lengthy and overloaded with details but that’s just the way I am (more long-winded especially in typing). (TOO BAD~) (Believe I shall be updating new entries soon!~ ^_^ Can’t wait… As of now, I’m trying to customise the site nicely. :))